MY MISTAKES.... PART 1(MRS SERIES)

Dating for me started pretty late because if you were brought up by my TEACHER MOM who is not ASHAMED or EMBARRASSED to disciple you ANYWHERE and ANYHOW😄 you would understand that you should always be in line.

But despite all the love and attention i got from home been the only daughter in the midst of 4 BROTHERS, Lol i still craved for some kinda attention from the opposite sex but looking back on some of the people i let into my life from back then, i feel very disappointed but growing up in Nigeria and been in your 30's AND NOT MARRIED...

You just tend to let people who do not even have any business being in your life STAY!!

So what were some of theses MISTAKES i made in my RELATIONSHIPS...


1. I felt been A GOOD GIRL (cooking, cleaning, doing his chores) would get me married!! Lol, aunty you better chill before you turn to domestic staff without pay.

2. I convinced myself that maybe if i am a bit flexible and compromised he wouldn't think am old school thus he might MARRY ME.

3. Maybe if i PRAY for this person, all these RED FLAGS will MAGICALLY disappear, GIRL FRIEND you better pray from afar because you are not God.

4. After dating for over a year, i still didn't have the courage to ask "UNCLE WERE ARE WE HEADING TO WITH THIS RELATIONSHIP" because i didn't want to look DESPERATE. Well, he left after me 4 years so........

5. I didn't "PAY ATTENTION" to the concerns of my family and friends. I say pay attention becaused honestly you don't have to  ACT ON IT but at least "LOOK INTO IT"

6. I thought that because his family had "ACKNOWLEDGED" me , i was "QUALIFIED" to be their WIFE. Aunty, you better shine your eyes because you might not be the only one they are "ACKNOWLEDGING"

7. I wasn't matching "HIS WORDS" with his "ACTIONS" but i stayed....

8. Dated this guy who had LOW SELF ESTEEM, he felt i was TOO AMBITIOUS because i had a good job, comfortable apartment and could travel when i wanted. He would shut me down in public, verbally abuse me but still want to come and CHILL in my house, and i STAYED. Girl, you better run because he will drain every single self worth you have and leave you in a MENTAL LIMBO...
I personally had to see a SHRINK after i eventually left.

(DETAILS WILL BE FEATURED IN MY UPCOMING BOOK)